Wedding Ring Vows

Wedding Ring Vows

 

Wedding Ring Vows
Holding your rings in your hands as you say your vows

Following on from last week’s post about Wedding rings and where to get them made in Mallorca! (Diego Nebot) I wanted to return to my original idea which was to write about the words you use to say your wedding ring vows….

 

 

Wedding ceremonies whilst individual to each and every couple do tend to follow are similar format (I have written about this in a previous blog “Your perfect wedding ceremony“) But after the introduction and homily maybe a reading from a guest, the ceremony tends to move on to the actual saying of your vows to each other, Generally it is nice to say your “I do’s” first and this is followed by the giving and receiving of wedding rings.

Wedding rings are worn as an outward illustration to the world that you are married… but to me they are far more than that.

They are a symbol of the love you share, they are a constant reminder that your marriage is a partnership, because although you may only wear one ring, each of the rings essentially belongs to you both. No matter how far apart you may be from each during your marriage, the wedding ring on your finger is a constant reminder that you said vows and made promises to each other on your wedding day…. And that your husband or wife will always have your back!  Over the years you will find that just a touch of your ring will give you strength or comfort when you need it and a smile when you remember the day you first said your vows and put the ring on your finger. It really is a continual reminder of the love you both share.

 

 

So, the vows you say to each other as you exchange your rings are equally as important as the  “I do’s”.

Here are a few examples;

“John, I give you this ring, that you may wear it, as a reminder of my love for you”

“Claire, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love, affection and respect, now and always”

But one of my preferred ways is for you to hold your rings in your hands as you say your vows to each other at the same time….  It may sound rather strange, but it really gives you both the opportunity to concentrate on the precious rings you are holding and fully concentrate on each other without fumbling with rings!  There is another slightly less romantic reason that is purely logistical too…. that is;  it gives me the opportunity to move out of the way when the time comes for you to actually put your rings on.  So, you get some great photos without me smiling like a Cheshire cat in the back ground.

                                                                                 

My Heart is in this ring,

My love is in this ring,

I promise you my unconditional love,                                                       

And give you my unwavering trust, 

When you look at this ring, 

Remember that I love you always,

                                                                           

Special thank you to Aimeekphotography for the beautiful photos

If you would like to talk to me about your wedding ceremony or your weding ring vows, Please do contact me Telephone/wassap/facetime +34676333065 , drop me an email Hello@ceremoniesinmallorca.com or you can even chat with me on facebook https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/

 

Wedding Rings

Wedding rings

 

The earliest examples of wedding rings are seen in ancient Egypt dating back 6000 years and later also seen in ancient Roman and Greek culture.

The original Egyptian wedding rings were formed out of reeds or hemp and as the circle defines infinity so the ring defined perpetual love and fidelity. It is said that the ring was place on the 4th finger of the left hand as they believed that a vein in this hand leads directly to the heart… Interestingly in Chinese medicine the heart meridian also runs from the 4th finger to the heart! Two very different cultures separated by thousands of miles but with a similar spiritual meaning!

The western concept of the wedding ring first came into being with the ancient Romans and Greeks when originally the wedding ring was given as part of a dowry as it was generally forged from precious metals. Later it was associated with fidelity and was an outward demonstration to the world that you were married and therefore not available!

Up to this day the reason for giving and receiving wedding rings hasn’t really changed too much.  Rings are given and received as a symbol of perpetual love and fidelity.

stunning rings by DIego Nebot

Where do you get your rings?  Some rings are passed down through families as heirlooms, others are bought from specialist shops, others are made especially for the couple. Here in Mallorca we have a very talented jeweller Diego Nebot, who believes in the power of energy and that a couple can transfer all of their good energy and love  along with their hopes and dreams for future  happiness into their rings at the time of melting the metal.  The couple meet with him to decide exactly what their ideas are for their wedding ring and then make an appointment to go to his workshop and together melt the metal to be used in the ring…. It really is a very special moment.

 

 

If you are interested in contacting Diego about bespoke wedding rings please click on the link to his website  www.diegonebot.com and take a look at this video  you can see the happiness on the faces of Claire and James.

In my next blog I will talk about wedding ring vows…….  watch this space!

If you would like to chat to me about wedding rings or would like some ideas about how to say your wedding ring vows….   send me a message via or give me a call +34 676333065 or find me on FACEBOOK always happy to have a chat

Rainy day weddings

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Rainy Day Weddings

This weekend has been has seen lots of rain here in Mallorca and we have all been keeping our fingers crossed that none of our couples have  rainy day weddings. As celebrants this can mean that our ceremonies gets moved to a plan B indoor option very quickly!  although we do always try to wait until the very last moment before making the final decision.   

The last two weekends has had me hooked to the weather report on my phone trying to establish exactly what time the predicted rain may hit… its always good to be prepared…. No good saying to the guests “welcome to sunny Mallorca” in the rain!

I have to say we have been extremely lucky!  and on both occasions we have managed the ceremony just before the rain hit!

There have been years that we weren’t quite so lucky and I have a vivid memory of  one particular couple a few years ago where the storm cloud crept up on us very suddenly and we all got absolutely drenched in a sudden downpour….As the groom said his vows there was an almighty clap of thunder and we were all soaked in seconds (When it rains in Mallorca it is torrential!.)… We decided to stop the ceremony at that point and continue inside…. Fortunately our hair and makeup artist hadn’t left so our bride had the chance to have her hair redone and makeup reapplied  and everyone else managed to dry off and we did ceremony take two!    As you read this you may think what a disaster… but actually we all have some fantastic memories and some amazing photos!   As we started ceremony take two everyone was laughing and suggesting how lucky our couple were to have two for the price of one!!

In Spanish culture it really is lucky to have rain on your wedding day and there are a few sayings one of which is  “novia mojada, dicha asegurada”. which means “a wet bride will have a blissful marriage”  There is also a tradition that to avoid a rainy wedding day either the bride or the bride’s mother has to take a dozen freshly laid eggs to the nuns of the Convent of Saint Clare. The nuns of the Order of Saint Claire (Clare. Chiara, Clara) are contemplatives who spend about eight hours a day in prayer. Many people feel that their prayer is particularly effective. Because the nuns were traditionally vegetarian and until the 1960’s they relied on gifts for their sustenance, people developed the habit of bringing a food gift when they asked a favour of the nuns. To make that special, they would bring eggs so the sisters could have an omelette and in return the nuns would pray for a dry wedding day!

So whilst we all hope for a beautiful sunny wedding day….especially during the months of May and September it can never be 100% guaranteed here in Mallorca…. just 99.9%!  which is pretty good odds!

 

 

 

My last words of positive wet wedding day wisdom….  Have you ever tried to untie a wet knot?  its almost impossible…

 

 

 

If you would like to know more about Getting Married in Mallorca or Ceremonies in Mallorca please feel free to drop me a line at hello@ceremoniesinmallorca or drop me a message on wassap +34676333065 or even call for a chat… you can also find me on facebook athttps://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/ happy to chat there too.

 

Your Perfect Wedding Ceremony

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What makes your perfect wedding ceremony?

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I love to see such happiness… the perfect ceremony!

The answer to this is of course the both of you, The Bride and Groom…Add to that your family and friends who are all with you with love in their hearts, you are in the most beautiful and carefully chosen location for your wedding, you are looking fabulous and you are surrounded by flowers…. So all of that is already perfect!

But what helps to make that half an hour of your ceremony extra special?

 

My first question when I speak to couples is what would make Your dream ceremony.  Many times the answer is “hmmmmmm we don’t know” And so we begin to get to know each other. I love everything about weddings but actually taking time to get to know my couples before the big day is really important… How could I possible build your perfect wedding ceremony if I don’t know you! So amongst other things I will ask… how you got together? How long have you known each other? What makes your relationship tick? What makes you laugh together? Why Mallorca? Tell me about the journey that has brought us to today? And over the months (sometimes a year or more) leading up to your big day we will have got to know each other quite well.

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Part of Lauren’s perfect ceremony was to sing herself down the aisle… we all had tears in our eyes

Wedding ceremonies are a little like telling a story with a beginning, a middle and a happy ever after. The skill of a good celebrant is to tell YOUR story whilst reflecting you as a couple and making sure your guests are fully engaged and making sure that it is a magical half hour that everyone will remember for years to come.

There is a format that works especially well and I often use it as a skeleton when building your ceremony and it goes a little like this;

Look at the faces of the guests!

Guest Reading/Poem

Introduction

Vows

Rings

The kiss

Certificate

Guest Reading/poem

Enhancement

 

This format ensures that the words weave waves of emotions… We make your guests laugh a little, Smile a lot and shed the odd tear of joy,  there are moments of intense emotion such as the brides arrival and your vows and moments of lightness when maybe we describe how “The Question” was popped. For example; I recently did a wedding for a couple which was held in the same restaurant where the groom had popped the question exactly a year ago to the day! Then add an enhancement for the real “AWWWWWW” factor. And soon you are walking, skipping or dancing back down the aisle as Mr and Mrs

If you would like help from an experienced celebrant for your perfect wedding ceremony then please do contact me by phone +34676333065 we can skype or wassapp, drop me an email at hello@ceremoniesinmallorca.com or we can chat on facebook https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/

Thank you to Aimeekphotography for the wonderful photos

Wedding Ceremonies for friends

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Wedding for My son in laws sister!

My very first wedding ceremony was for a friend… “Could you officiate at my wedding ceremony” she said.  I have a history of public speaking so that part certainly didn’t phase me… but standing up in front of quite a few of my personal friends and being given the responsibility of presenting a script for the happiest day of their lives did feel a little daunting.  However we worked on it and it was amazing!  both for me and for them. Because of this experience I decided this was where my passion lay and it completely changed my world and I have since presented hundreds of ceremonies here in Mallorca.

 

 

 

Recently I have  spoken to a few couples who are also thinking of having a friend present their wedding ceremony and asking me if I can give them some advice.  I jumped at the chance … I am up for helping to make every wedding perfect whether it be in the foreground or in the back ground just offering little nuggets of my experience.

 

So if you are thinking of going this route here are a few essential things that need to be included in your ceremony:

 

 

  1. An Introduction – Talk a little about love, Thank the guests for sharing the day. Talk about the couple, why are we all here? what brought them to this point, standing here today in front of all of the people they love?
  2. A reading. – Try to include some other guests by inviting them to say a poem or a few words.
  3. Wedding Vows
  4. Ring vows
  5. THE KISS – Very important moment!
  6. Maybe another reading
  7. Mr and Mrs – It is my great pleasure to introduce to you for the very first time… Mr and Mrs Smith
  8. And remember that a  wedding ceremony is a little like telling a story with a beginning, a middle and an end.

 

Although many of my clients actually feel like friends by the time they walk down the aisle as we will have spent sometimes up to a year planning the big day and it is always a huge responsibility, I am never nervous.  Officiating at a friends wedding, if I am honest, always gives me the biggest butterflies!

 

Yesterday in my in-box I had a lovely testimonial from a wedding I presented last month for a  good friend of mine… here is what she wrote:

 

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presenting the ceremony at my friends wedding

I have a confession to make, I already knew Annie when I ‘chose’ her, so I cheated a little – but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  Like many brides, I had (and have) the intention of only getting married once so wanted it to be just perfect.  The venue, food, flowers, (groom!), all play a vital part, but the ceremony is really what everyone is there for – to see the dress for the first time, the exchanging of rings, the genuine outpouring of love, the laughter, the tears.  It’s a tricky balancing act, but I knew Annie had the experience and the enthusiasm to get it just right.  Together we drafted, edited, and edited again, until we had the perfect flow of words and emotion.  With the Med shimmering in the background and all our friends and family around us it really was a special moment I know I will, and could, never forget  Sarah, 15 July 2017, H10 Punta Negra

 

If you would like any help or advice regarding your ceremony then please feel free to contact me by phone/wassap  +34676333065 by email hello@ceremoniesinmallorca or we can chat via facebook too  https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/