Wedding Ring Vows

Wedding Ring Vows

 

Wedding Ring Vows
Holding your rings in your hands as you say your vows

Following on from last week’s post about Wedding rings and where to get them made in Mallorca! (Diego Nebot) I wanted to return to my original idea which was to write about the words you use to say your wedding ring vows….

 

 

Wedding ceremonies whilst individual to each and every couple do tend to follow are similar format (I have written about this in a previous blog “Your perfect wedding ceremony“) But after the introduction and homily maybe a reading from a guest, the ceremony tends to move on to the actual saying of your vows to each other, Generally it is nice to say your “I do’s” first and this is followed by the giving and receiving of wedding rings.

Wedding rings are worn as an outward illustration to the world that you are married… but to me they are far more than that.

They are a symbol of the love you share, they are a constant reminder that your marriage is a partnership, because although you may only wear one ring, each of the rings essentially belongs to you both. No matter how far apart you may be from each during your marriage, the wedding ring on your finger is a constant reminder that you said vows and made promises to each other on your wedding day…. And that your husband or wife will always have your back!  Over the years you will find that just a touch of your ring will give you strength or comfort when you need it and a smile when you remember the day you first said your vows and put the ring on your finger. It really is a continual reminder of the love you both share.

 

 

So, the vows you say to each other as you exchange your rings are equally as important as the  “I do’s”.

Here are a few examples;

“John, I give you this ring, that you may wear it, as a reminder of my love for you”

“Claire, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my love, affection and respect, now and always”

But one of my preferred ways is for you to hold your rings in your hands as you say your vows to each other at the same time….  It may sound rather strange, but it really gives you both the opportunity to concentrate on the precious rings you are holding and fully concentrate on each other without fumbling with rings!  There is another slightly less romantic reason that is purely logistical too…. that is;  it gives me the opportunity to move out of the way when the time comes for you to actually put your rings on.  So, you get some great photos without me smiling like a Cheshire cat in the back ground.

                                                                                 

My Heart is in this ring,

My love is in this ring,

I promise you my unconditional love,                                                       

And give you my unwavering trust, 

When you look at this ring, 

Remember that I love you always,

                                                                           

Special thank you to Aimeekphotography for the beautiful photos

If you would like to talk to me about your wedding ceremony or your weding ring vows, Please do contact me Telephone/wassap/facetime +34676333065 , drop me an email [email protected] or you can even chat with me on facebook https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/

 

Your Perfect Wedding Ceremony

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What makes your perfect wedding ceremony?

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I love to see such happiness… the perfect ceremony!

The answer to this is of course the both of you, The Bride and Groom…Add to that your family and friends who are all with you with love in their hearts, you are in the most beautiful and carefully chosen location for your wedding, you are looking fabulous and you are surrounded by flowers…. So all of that is already perfect!

But what helps to make that half an hour of your ceremony extra special?

 

My first question when I speak to couples is what would make Your dream ceremony.  Many times the answer is “hmmmmmm we don’t know” And so we begin to get to know each other. I love everything about weddings but actually taking time to get to know my couples before the big day is really important… How could I possible build your perfect wedding ceremony if I don’t know you! So amongst other things I will ask… how you got together? How long have you known each other? What makes your relationship tick? What makes you laugh together? Why Mallorca? Tell me about the journey that has brought us to today? And over the months (sometimes a year or more) leading up to your big day we will have got to know each other quite well.

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Part of Lauren’s perfect ceremony was to sing herself down the aisle… we all had tears in our eyes

Wedding ceremonies are a little like telling a story with a beginning, a middle and a happy ever after. The skill of a good celebrant is to tell YOUR story whilst reflecting you as a couple and making sure your guests are fully engaged and making sure that it is a magical half hour that everyone will remember for years to come.

There is a format that works especially well and I often use it as a skeleton when building your ceremony and it goes a little like this;

Look at the faces of the guests!

Guest Reading/Poem

Introduction

Vows

Rings

The kiss

Certificate

Guest Reading/poem

Enhancement

 

This format ensures that the words weave waves of emotions… We make your guests laugh a little, Smile a lot and shed the odd tear of joy,  there are moments of intense emotion such as the brides arrival and your vows and moments of lightness when maybe we describe how “The Question” was popped. For example; I recently did a wedding for a couple which was held in the same restaurant where the groom had popped the question exactly a year ago to the day! Then add an enhancement for the real “AWWWWWW” factor. And soon you are walking, skipping or dancing back down the aisle as Mr and Mrs

If you would like help from an experienced celebrant for your perfect wedding ceremony then please do contact me by phone +34676333065 we can skype or wassapp, drop me an email at [email protected] or we can chat on facebook https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/

Thank you to Aimeekphotography for the wonderful photos

Wedding Ceremonies for friends

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Wedding for My son in laws sister!

My very first wedding ceremony was for a friend… “Could you officiate at my wedding ceremony” she said.  I have a history of public speaking so that part certainly didn’t phase me… but standing up in front of quite a few of my personal friends and being given the responsibility of presenting a script for the happiest day of their lives did feel a little daunting.  However we worked on it and it was amazing!  both for me and for them. Because of this experience I decided this was where my passion lay and it completely changed my world and I have since presented hundreds of ceremonies here in Mallorca.

 

 

 

Recently I have  spoken to a few couples who are also thinking of having a friend present their wedding ceremony and asking me if I can give them some advice.  I jumped at the chance … I am up for helping to make every wedding perfect whether it be in the foreground or in the back ground just offering little nuggets of my experience.

 

So if you are thinking of going this route here are a few essential things that need to be included in your ceremony:

 

 

  1. An Introduction – Talk a little about love, Thank the guests for sharing the day. Talk about the couple, why are we all here? what brought them to this point, standing here today in front of all of the people they love?
  2. A reading. – Try to include some other guests by inviting them to say a poem or a few words.
  3. Wedding Vows
  4. Ring vows
  5. THE KISS – Very important moment!
  6. Maybe another reading
  7. Mr and Mrs – It is my great pleasure to introduce to you for the very first time… Mr and Mrs Smith
  8. And remember that a  wedding ceremony is a little like telling a story with a beginning, a middle and an end.

 

Although many of my clients actually feel like friends by the time they walk down the aisle as we will have spent sometimes up to a year planning the big day and it is always a huge responsibility, I am never nervous.  Officiating at a friends wedding, if I am honest, always gives me the biggest butterflies!

 

Yesterday in my in-box I had a lovely testimonial from a wedding I presented last month for a  good friend of mine… here is what she wrote:

 

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presenting the ceremony at my friends wedding

I have a confession to make, I already knew Annie when I ‘chose’ her, so I cheated a little – but I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  Like many brides, I had (and have) the intention of only getting married once so wanted it to be just perfect.  The venue, food, flowers, (groom!), all play a vital part, but the ceremony is really what everyone is there for – to see the dress for the first time, the exchanging of rings, the genuine outpouring of love, the laughter, the tears.  It’s a tricky balancing act, but I knew Annie had the experience and the enthusiasm to get it just right.  Together we drafted, edited, and edited again, until we had the perfect flow of words and emotion.  With the Med shimmering in the background and all our friends and family around us it really was a special moment I know I will, and could, never forget  Sarah, 15 July 2017, H10 Punta Negra

 

If you would like any help or advice regarding your ceremony then please feel free to contact me by phone/wassap  +34676333065 by email [email protected] or we can chat via facebook too  https://www.facebook.com/weddingsinmallorca/

Saying I Do

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Probably the most important moment in your wedding ceremony is Saying I do,  It is also the moment that couples feel most nervous about.

“Will I stumble over my words?ceremonies in mallorca
“Will I cry?”
“What if I am struck dumb?”
“I will feel so silly!”

These are real questions and real fears…. Asked to me time and time again.

My answer is very often the same,  you may well do one of the above you may do all!  But it doesn’t matter. Your wedding day will be special no matter what, you and your guests will remember the little things that are not “Perfect” because it is the little things that make it your special day and make it absolutely perfect.

I have a few lovely anecdotes that explain exactly what I mean.

Last Year I did a beautiful informal wedding ceremony in a lovely private villa in Arta. The couple had ceremonies in Mallorcaa small son aged 2, and the idea was for him to bring the rings… they were tied to his waist coat. His big moment arrived and …… he took off running around the garden,  trying to catch a two year old may sound easy but trust me there were 20 adults running around after him… it was such fun. Was it as we planned? No way, but it will be a memory that will be passed down through the years … his parents will probably tell the story at his wedding!

Another lovely couple who married at Hilton Sa Torre in Llucmajor It has a fabulous Iconic chapel a really beautiful wedding venue. The couple decided they would say their own vows to each other… not repeat after me! It is beautiful when couples are able to do this as no-one can say their emotions like them. However it is also a very emotional thing to do and tears are often shed. At this particular wedding The bride said her vows with just a little break in her voice…. The groom however got absolutely caught out by the emotion of the moment and although he said his beautiful words tears were streaming down his cheeks and snot from his nose!!! Good job I always have tissues at hand… and his wife, she couldn’t stop laughing! I know those two will have the happiest marriage, after it all they both laughed so hard together. Another special memory made!

I have so many moments that are so special,  mum and dad having to hold their children while they say their vows. One little girl sitting eating a bag of crisps at my feet….Each and every one a memory!

If you would like to know more about wedding ceremonies or find out more about saying I Do in Mallorca or would like to speak to Annie about your vows please send an email to [email protected] or just give me a call +34676333065